Most non ACC fans would say that the 2 best teams from the ACC were replaced with 4 G5 teams and Pac12 leftovers?
I assume you were ignoring that part and were saying that most non ACC fans would say that the ACC is not on the football radar. With Texas and Oklahoma gone, two Big 12 teams have made it to the playoffs and two ACC teams have made it to the playoffs. Only one of the Big12 teams was a Big12 team when they made the playoffs. The 2024 Big12 has a total of 2 CFP appearances. The ACC has a total of 7 CFP appearances, mostly Clemson.
Better/worse is a subjective measure. The issue I have is that the "measurements" that determine good/bad change every year, and even many times during the year. Too many college football fans fall for the hype instead of trying to think for themselves. You say that people are in denial and are "coping". However, it appears to me that you are one of the people who just go with whatever the popular opinion is at the time. If someone pics measurements that determine a good conference and stick with that measurement, I would at least respect it. People don't do that. OOC wins are super important, until they are not. Bowl wins are "proof", unless the popular conference loses and then they don't matter. This year, people lambasted the ACC because Louisville lost to Kentucky. During the entire season, no team in the SEC had an OOC win against a better team than Louisville. I can't wrap my head around the circular logic: Louisville is a horrific team because they lost to Kentucky, so the SEC is super strong. But, the SEC did not have a single OOC win against a better team than Louisville so why isn't the SEC weak instead of strong? (Popular sentiment would be that it is important when making Louisville look bad, but it is irrelevant when making the SEC look bad.) It is extremely obvious that people simply decide that the SEC is better than everyone else, and then look for whatever measure in that particular year, or even particular week, that "proves" that the SEC is better. The "proofs" change. Last weeks "proof" might not even be valid again this week if it makes the SEC look bad.
I am not trying to bash the SEC. However, the SEC is not made up of 16 NFL caliber teams. With Texas and Oklahoma, they are adding more top teams. However, they still have Vanderbilt. They still have Miss State. Florida hasn't been doing too well. South Carolina hasn't been doing too well. Popular sentiment would say that even if the SEC doesn't have 16 NFL teams, that they do have 16 Alabamas. Is the SEC better than the ACC and the Big12? Probably. Is the SEC better than the Big10? I don't know that I could answer that. However, the difference between the SEC/Big10 and the ACC isn't as large as the difference between the NFL and the SEC. It isn't even as big as the difference between the ACC and an FCS conference.