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But you did ...I dont want to sound insensitive but could any of this come back to hurt GT and CPJ?
But you did ...I dont want to sound insensitive but could any of this come back to hurt GT and CPJ?
But I didn'tBut you did ...
Oh right, I forgot you’ve watched a lot of Law & Order SVU and are an expert.
Please explain how your hypothetical scenario is at all likely.
March Madness>Replying to keyboard warriors on the internetPlease explain how your hypothetical scenario is at all likely.
March Madness>Replying to keyboard warriors on the internet
For starters, I said it is possible not that it is likely a rape kit was done at the time of the alleged incident. I provided a source that backed up my claim, whereas you have only provided wild speculation of the accuser's motive and anecdotal evidence from your friend. Yes false accusations happen(Duke lacrosse, UVA, etc), and I hope that's the case for Adam. The point of my post was that I doubt they would proceed with charges if they didn't at least have some evidence.
I hope you never get put in a situation where one of your daughters open up to you years after the event...doubt you would respond in the same way.
It's possible there was a rape kit done at the time and only now is it tied to Adam because she is pressing charges. This site gives a little more info
Incredibly unlikely.
Oh right, I forgot you’ve watched a lot of Law & Order SVU and are an expert.
Just want to thank you for your contributions to this thread. I read a thread on this topic on StingTalk and was disgusted (as usual) at the callousness of most of the responses. I expected better here on GTSwarm, but I was disappointed to see lots of the same "this is probably just extortion" takes as I saw on ST.There’s practically no downside to accusing someone who can afford an expensive lawyer to vigorously paint the accuser as a liar?
Maybe if you already have absolutely nothing to lose. And if the case is a criminal prosecution, it’s for jail time and not for money.
Looking at this thread, I’ve seen one person say “wait a second, this looks bad” and most of the responses have been that these things typically get faked. Not much “let’s wait and see” or other cautious comments.
It’s rare to get arrested on a rape charge. After 5 years, probably rarer. That’s not a good sign.
Women, including women on this forum, get to see us saying “a lot of women make up fake rape charges”. They already have to deal with the idea that no one will believe them, and we’re proving them right in this thread.
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Well, when you have something like 30 players arrested in the last several years and a graduation rate that is second to last in P5, its normal human nature to assume its more of the same.
When you have a school that is massively more on the straight and narrow like us, its also human nature to make logical assumptions.
Just want to thank you for your contributions to this thread. I read a thread on this topic on StingTalk and was disgusted (as usual) at the callousness of most of the responses. I expected better here on GTSwarm, but I was disappointed to see lots of the same "this is probably just extortion" takes as I saw on ST.
I'm a very close friend of a woman who took multiple years to report her case to police, for many of the reasons you stated. I hate seeing comments like these.
Then by that logic, why are you so quick to assume that a Tech alumna is making all this up for whatever unscrupulous reason? Are you inclined to believe the men on our football team are of greater integrity than the rest of the student body?
Explain to me again why anyone would wait 5 years to press charges for rape and not come forward immediately? It genuinely confuses me.....it seems illogical beyond words.I'm a very close friend of a woman who took multiple years to report her case to police, for many of the reasons you stated. I hate seeing comments like these.
Why don't you talk to several women for their views? Because there are several reasons. I don't have an opinion on Gotsis at all -- the courts will sort it out -- but I have talked to rape victims. In terms of how women react there is a difference in the out-and-out sexual assault and sexual assault by an acquaintance, and "date rape" is far more common than acknowledged . There is hesitance, believe it or not some guilt may be associated ("did I encourage it?"), uncertainty as to reaction from friends, distrust of cops who all too often even in 2018 may have a first reaction of "She asked for it", a reluctance to have her previous sexual history explored -- in terms of sex America is still very much a chauvinistic society, "boys will be boys but girls better be chaste" -- and maybe the one, overriding fear-driven reason: the absolute terror of being on a witness stand, or giving a deposition, and having a bull terrier of a defense lawyer shred their reputations while demanding public exploration of every sexual encounter beginning with their teen years, because his sole responsibility is not to the truth -- that is for the prosecution -- but to his client. Imagine returning to your job or family after enduring that. It is not a pretty picture of our justice system, but there it is, and it takes an exceptional judge to control the courtroom and the interrogation. And frankly, we ain't got many exceptional judges. I will give you a pass on the equivalency of a petty thief and a rapist, because you probably want that part back.Explain to me again why anyone would wait 5 years to press charges for rape and not come forward immediately? It genuinely confuses me.....it seems illogical beyond words.
If someone stole something from me I cannot imagine waiting 5 years to bring forward an accusation under any circumstances. What changes now that makes her feel it is OK now to come forward when it wasn't OK 5 years ago? I am genuinely baffled by this type of behavior.
One more side note...
If the accused/victim has years worth of counseling for trauma caused and the bills from those sessions that will be the nail in the coffin as far as the civil case and restitution goes... It may also be enough for the criminal case... no rape kite may be required in this metoo climate.
If there has been zero therapy then that would bode well for Adam
Actually, I did that before I posted, but thanks for the suggestion. My wife was also victim of a sexual assault so I certainly have a point of view on this. One that might even surpass yours. While the issues you raise are discussable. Yet, none of the women I asked could fathom why it would be easier to deal with those same issues 5 years later.Why don't you talk to several women for their views?
I hate to say it, but even if Adam is not formally charged criminally I am almost certain that this accuser/victim could bring on a civil case and seek restitution for the night in question.
Reading between the lines and speculating it appears that the two left the party together after drinking.... It appears they had sex... Now it appears that maybe the accuser/victim either told him NO or she was drunk and the next morning or sometime between 9 March 2013 until Feb 2018 she thought to herself that she did not give consent...
This is one thing I’ve always been unclear on...in a situation where two people are drinking together and then hook up, if one feels after the fact that they didn’t give consent because they were too drunk how can they possibly bring charges against the other who very well may have also been too drunk to consent but doesn’t feel bad about it? I’m not saying I know that’s what happened here (because there’s literally only two people in the world who do know), but it’s definitely something that happens all too often on college campuses that I’ve never really seen addressed in a non-judgemental way.
I know kids will be kids...but there are literally dozens of reasons to not get drunk and hook up. Sex assault allegations, pregnancy risk, STDs, etc. etc. If you never have sex with anybody other than your husband or wife, life is a lot less complicated.