I think many people are lost in a false choice. We can both live our lives and protect the elderly and vulnerable. Nurses and doctors go to work everyday, safe from picking up diseases their patients have. There's no reason why we can't also do that in places like nursing homes.
Yes and no. What exactly would you be proposing we do? Most hospitals and medical facilities have imposed strict mandatory measures like locking down those facilities to visitors, mandatory masks, and the like. I think that would certainly help, but I also believe that most nursing homes have already adopted similar measures and yet we still have high mortality in seniors. So, I am honestly not sure what additional measures you are proposing. Are you proposing mandatory indefinite quarantine of all seniors and any worker that interacts with seniors, as well as mandatory 14 day quarantine for any family member that interacts with seniors? If so, that seems to raise some of the same "freedom" concerns (but I digress). Hospitals and medical facilities are literally designed to be sterile and prevent as much spread of disease as possible, with trained professionals and medical grade PPE. Yet, the CDC estimates that at least 62,000 healthcare workers in the US have been sickened by COVID-19, with hundreds having died. LINK. Take those numbers and apply the senior mortality rate, and that is still a very large number. We can certainly take measures to help seniors but, absent a complete and draconian quarantine like suggested above, any success will still be limited unless the rest of society behaves responsibly (wearing masks in public, social distancing, etc.)
So, it is not a false choice. It just isn't a black and white choice. It is a sliding scale of the severity and breadth of mediation measures vs. the number of deaths. I do not claim to be a smart enough man to know what point on that sliding scale is "the best."